Love Yourself

11:03:00 PM Gadislensa 0 Comments

Peace be upon to you.

Love yourself so you know what you deserve.
Love yourself and accept yourself for who you are.
It's okay if you are short, fat, tall, thin, chubby, dark, white.
Among all sperm that try to swim and win the race just to get out and see the world, its you the one that Allah choose to grow up in this cruel world. You are the winner of yourself.


After all, some of us including me sometimes tend to forgot to love myself.
I may regret many things. Words I say, words I didn't say.
Decisions I made. Decisions I didn't make.
Feelings I expressed. People I listened to. People I confided in.
Questions I ask, answers I gave. Promises I made, promises I believed.

Reflecting is essential but regret should not ground you in the past.You should be grateful that you have a conscious mind that realizes what is right and wrong.You should give yourself strength to wisely use your present to make your future better. Love yourself and know yourself better.

Never aim to be understood by others before you understand yourself. You know your weaknesses and struggles, and you are the one who works to overcome them. So, your strength means more to you than it could ever mean to anyone else. If you don't stop judging yourself, putting yourself down, believing that this is as good as you can be then you've closed doors for yourself before they even appear in front of you. You've become a slave of your past.

Don't expect to be who you want to be without being true to yourself and believing in yourself.
Who else gonna believe in yourself if it is not you ?
If you don't believe in yourself, don't expect anyone to believe in you.
If you don't see the best in yourself, don't expect anyone to see the best in you.
If you make yourself believe that you need people to accept you, then you are giving them the right to reject you.

You don't need anyone to accept you.
You can't make anyone understand you.
You can't make anyone to love you, listen to you, trust you or even like you.
It's you and yourself.

No one knows what you need to do more than you do.
Cry when you need to. It's relieving.
Laugh when you need to. It's healing.
Sit alone when you need to. It's eye-opening.

You are more worthy of being taken care of than anyone around you. I mean the care that your soul needs. Everyone around us is struggling somehow. Do not allow the fear of failing to stop you from jumping. Do not allow the fear of exposure to stop you from shining. Happiness is in our own hands.
so why you need to bother others to love you perfectly, if you can love yourself better?
Treat yourself better, recite an Al-Quran, go shopping, reward yourself, go for a holiday, spend your quality time with your family, go out and explore the world.

Before you expect people to put themselves in your shoes, put yourself in your own shoes.
Worry about changing what you need to change.
Don't ever allow anyone to make you feel that being a good person is something bad.
Don't ever allow anyone to make you feel that you need to prove anything to them.

Believe in yourself. Believe in goodness. Live  your life the way you know you want to.
Believe me after you know yourself better, you will live happily and the less nonsense you'll tolerate.
It's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It's necessary.

See you again on my next post!
Fi Hifzillah
-Fs.

A MESSY HEART AND HEAVY SHOULDERS

5:03:00 AM Gadislensa 0 Comments

Peace be upon to you,  Alhamdulillah it's the month of Ramadhan again.
This is what I have been waiting for.

All praised be to Allah for this journey.
Remember don't wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect.
It's been too long that I didn't update any post on my blog. So I just want to take this chance to update a post at least.

Before that, I would like to say Thank You for those who were there to support me, sending prayers, lending a hug, wipe out my tears, stand by besides me and trying to create a smile back on my face. May Allah repay back your kindness.

Through out last semester till this short semester, I down for a frequent times. But sometimes I told to myself  "it's okay to cry". Life has knocked me down a few times, it showed me things I never wanted to see. I experienced sadness and failures. But one thing for sure I always need to get up.

I cried a lot on last semester and also on past few days. Like the most horrible and so ugly kind of crying that you would never imagined of, not just like tears. But it was a really hard sobbing. I guess the last time when i was crying so bad is when I have a sharing session with my favorite person at the lake.
Because I let it all out and thank you to that person for lending me your ears and calming me out.

"Why in the world you need to cry? You shouldn't have to cry, you have everything! Your life is perfect."- unknown

 I cried because of work, and with everything else.
At the end of the day I am still a normal human like you guys who have heart and feeling, and I am not a robot.
Sometimes Allah allows us to fall because there's something down there we're supposed to find.

I am telling you this not for seeking an attention, but I don't want any of you to think that I already have everything. No..
I am trying to be a positive person, I try to see the good in every situation that happens in my life, I try to see the good in people, I work hard, I will always make sure people around me happy and I will always prioritizes all the person that I love first than me. I enjoy the things I do and I also love my life.
But that doesn't mean that I don't have any problems or my life is perfect.

Sometimes I do get Direct Message from a really kind person out there and also from people around me. That they see me as an inspiration and they also want to live that kind of life that I live.
I am not saying that it is not good, what is good can be used as a guide, and what is not good can be used as a lesson.

I took this chance to share about what I've learnt through out all this phase.
Which is what I wanted to shared it to you. On past few days, I cried. I had a really really bad day and a tough time.

Never underestimate the pain of each person, because in all honesty Everyone is struggling. Just some people are better at hiding it than others. Everyone has problems no matter how perfect that person are. or how good or kind or calm or inspiring person. He or she has his or her own flaws. We never know what people are going through. So pause before you start judging, mocking or criticizing others. Everyone is fighting their own unique war!

Wallahi, to be honest the good you see in me. It is just really that Allah is the one who hiding all of my terrible flaws.

so after this, if you're willing to continue join this journey with me, I hope you know that I'm just like you. That I cry too, I get scared too, I have my own insecurity too, I make mistakes too, I get angry, I get impatient, And I do silly things, and there is a time I messed it all up too. I hope you don't even think that I have everything all together because i really don't.
And I am not perfect.

Perfection only happens in Paradise. Only Allah is perfect, nobody is perfect in this world Nobody has the ability to make things perfect but we are given chances to make things right. We all are so full of flaws, but yet Allah is always forgive us. Allah still protect us, Allah still love us for no matter what we did.

Remember, when sadness fill your heart and tears flow in your eyes.
Always remember 3 things;

ALLAH is with you, still with you and always with you.



Ramadhan doesn't come just to change our schedule. It comes to change our hearts too..
I feel  more relieved after write this up.
This is also a reminder foremost to myself.
Will let you read it again at the next post.
Inshaallah, Happy Iftar!

Sincerely;
FS